Thoughts at 2 a.m.

I'm not a fan of weddings cuz
Weddings are like romance movies,
they serve as the prologue to the real deal.
One is always left wondering what happens after the kiss and the credits roll.
Weddings are like an appetizer to a really good meal, that you will only see but never taste.

21 comments:

downtheaisle said...

lol@One is always left wondering what happens after the kiss and the credits roll

sunnyside said...

Nice perception u ve abt weddings "An appetizer to A really good meal that u ll only see but never taste'

well, my wedding, i ll not just taste d really good meal but i ll finish it up. Yummy. .

akaBagucci said...

Appetizer.. to a meal you'll never taste.. Very true words.. Sometimes though we are too anxious to hit the wedding track...

P.S. These are deep thoughts to be musing on at 2.00am!!

Tisha said...

love weddings
i could get married 10 times
if i did not have to go home
with the groom
weddings are fun
marriage is scary

Writefreak said...

@Tisha, no marriage is not scary,you only need to watch and pray...look very well before you leap...it's not scary at all...(i would know)

I'm never overly excited about weddings cos the truth is like you said, only God and the people getting married know what happens after the wedding!

Gee said...

haahhaha...i sooo understand this post but on the other hand...I LOVE WEDDDINGS!!!!!!!!!

Kafo said...

@ Gee: lol, hmmmmm i don't like u anymore oooo how can u LOVE weddings that is a very strong word to use oo

@ Writefreak: i echo your thots on only God and the 2 people know about it. I just see too many people spend time stressing out about this one day and it's like u realize that a marriage is not about the wedding, go to Vegas, go to court, do it in Naija or while parachuting, it really have LITTLE EFFECT on your marriage.

@ Tisha: 10 times wow, the same man right LOL, i don't think marriage is scary, different yes but not scary. but then again i am not married so what do i know

@ akaBagucci: very true, it's like these stupid movies have conditioned us to imagine the day and they never really tell us the story that happens after and so we rush into it not really prepared for the main course just tripping over the appetizer.
I should have been in bed but ....

@ sunnyside:amen ooooooooo

@ dontheaisle: think about all the romantic movies out there, the movies always ends when they kiss and agree to be together, it never really tells us how they STAY together

The Girl with the Red Hair said...

I love weddings!!!

It is an appetizer I will not taste for now but shall taste someday.

Debbie said...

I love weddings, but it's what happens behind close doors after all the celebrations, vows, and the kisses, that lives me wondering.

Kafo said...

@ Debbie: i've stopped wondering about it

@ The Girl with the Red hair: is your hair really red? lol anywayz yeah u will taste your own wedding but will have to go to a bunch before then :(

Rose said...

I love weddings,the ceremony I mean...I always hope that those involved are doing it for the right reasons and would actually work to strengthen their bond...Can never think of mine though, for some strange reason..lol

Tisha said...

@kafo
are you crazy?
of course the same man...

Tricia said...

Sad but true! A wedding is just a ceremony,the marriage is the big deal

Vixen said...

I'm still going to call you to talk about my wedding. Get used to it!

poeticallytinted said...

I wish everyone would just dispense of wedding ceremonies they are one of those little traditions that are in actual fact meaningless. But I can't go into all that because I'll just take over your blog. Seriously... weddings are silly. but i guess it may have it's uses... though i can't figure them out for the life of me.

Daydah said...

weddings are fun, marriages are scary...
That is the truth. Kafo is musing at 2 am, have been thinking abt it more often for the past month. Issues like money, sex, and the in-laws are a source of worry. God is able
I got a question though - someone said that after saying 'I do' its the man's turn to rest, and its actually the woman that 'does' = cooking, cleaning, taking care of the kids, praying for everyone's safety, always put the immediate family first (and trying to ensure ur husband does that as well in terms of finances, cos the extended family will never stop calling that they need help), and balancing all that with a career.

WHY does the spiritual role of standing in for the family fall on us women? That is my question

And Kafo, u know that left to me, I would just go to the registry, be done in less than an hour, but like you I do not understand why the African setting insist on spending all that money on a ceremony and choose to leave the finances of the couple to God's Hands afterwards. If I were to receive all the money and attention my mother has spent on this wedding so far, I would be very very comfortable!

Is vixen getting married? YAY! We really have to drag you here o!

rethots said...

"... an appetizer to a really good meal, that you will only see but never taste." speak not so. Marriage (not wedding) is a conscious descision to 'walk' the rest of the journey with (s)he. Once this thot (or realization) is not lost, 'we' can make of the marriage whatsoever we choose. God grace, not absent tho'.

Remi, United Kingdom said...

eh hen? u are thinking you don't like weddings at 2:00am? lol.. and I thought my insomnia was bad eh? lol...

well the way I see it, weddings is just a day, and introduction to the begining of great things - if God is in the centre of the union

I love weddings because it reminds me of God's beautiful gift of relationship, and the power of two becoming one formidable force..

I love weddings because it reminds me that man / woman was not meant to be alone.

I love weddings because it reminds me of that just like the end of movie, that one wedding day, is the begining of the rest of their lives as one.

... and on a superficial level... I love weddings cus I get to wear colourful outfits.. and sky scrapper head tie!

what is there NOT to love about weddings.. lol...

Buttercup said...

Lol..interesting point of view. What with marriages like Writefreak's, I'm very hopeful!

Jaycee said...

LOL...weddings are fun. Actually, after the appetizer comes something innately satisfying. Or something that keeps needing to be satisfied...a Godly thing. The ceremony is once in a lifetime, and should be enjoyed as such...

I loveeeeeee the wedding song on the blog...LOL. Got wedding on the brain?

Kafo said...

@ Jaycee: r u talking about the Jagged Edge song LOL, weddings are in my face but marriage is on my mind.

@ Buttercup: u and mii both

@ Remi: i'm laughing at the whole gele that resemble sky scrapper. insomnia, nah i try and stay awake. i think better at night and so i just let the day come back and go over every conversation until yeah i come to some conclusion

@ rethots: long time oooooooooo, i hope all is well. well said

@ daydah: i don't think the spiritual role falls on the woman, at least the couples that i love i think it works both ways. if it falls on the woman ah that is too much work for my head oo. go and choose your colors and bye flowers ooo, i want to see pictures, you are not allowed to stop by a registry ooooo. not after this long wait. IT IS NOT AN OPTION
lol

@ poeticallytinted: u speak my heart. thanks

@ vixen: i know i know i know i am forgiving you in advance

@ tricia: true

@ tisha: LOL i just HAD to ASK LOL. i wasn't sure if you wanted variety in all the wedding shots and decided to switch men lol

@ Rose: hmmmmmmmm u can't think of you wedding. hmmmmmmmmmm it's okay until this last month it never crossed my mind and i've been in a relationship for 2 years plus.