Sex in the church

Okay this is a lil' racy so read at your own risk.

Confession: I've thought about sex in church. That's the truth, about 2 years ago, i was sitting in the pew, and i had this mini fantasy about sex, while i was sitting four pews from the front of the church. I'm not talking about thinking how sex is bad and how i'll never have it till i get married. Nooooo, i was sitting in church having a mini sexual fantasy. I'm not saying this to boast, it was definitely wrong, and that point in my life i was reading some pretty raunchy stuff so yeah fantasies at that time was the norm. I'm not trying to justify my behavior, but here's the point, if I, Miss Virgin-quoting-scripture-teaching-bible-study-first-to-get-to-church has to work at controlling sexual thoughts while SHE IS IN CHURCH (mercy), how hard it is for the rest of the nation (esp. those who watch Grey's Anatomy)?

Great Sex God's Way.


Are you kidding me?
I woke up this morning, turned on my computer to start studying and saw the headline of a Southern pastor causing a stir in Alabama for preaching about sex. For real, sex in the church, it seems just like yesterday that Ted Haggard was coming out of his meth and homosexual closest and all of a sudden the South has its panties in a bunch cuz a pastor is preaching about Great Sex God's Way.

I mean I have sex conversations with my 13 and 14 year old boyz, my 8 year old niece that watches Disney Channel tells me that my top isn't sexy and we are scared because the church is actually starting to address what is going on in the world.

I don't get it.

So yeah, is it cool for pastors to talk about Sex in church, is it cool for them to have billboards saying Great Sex God's Way? One pastor in Cali went so far as to tell married couples to have sex for seven straight days to save their marriage. This might seem extreme, but sex is everywhere, so how come we keep it out of church, do we really put on a different body when we walk into church, does our mind all of a sudden get sanitized?

Hmmmm....
I know what you are thinking, it is church we are supposed to be kosher, we can't be talking about great sex or any kind of sex. There is no sex in the Bible, there is fornication and adultery but they never use the S-E-X word. I mean when the pastor starts preaching about sex then i have to have a conversation with my child (who already knows about sex but isn't talking to you about it) about sex.

This could just be a publicity stunt to get people to come out to church,
or
this is watering down our values and trying to make church seem like a place where people can bring their dirty laundry and get comfortable.
or
This is sin.



I don't know

Here's the article
http://news.aol.com/article/sex-sermons-in-alabama-church/378163

Here's the church's website
http://www.greatsexgodsway.com/

Here's a video from part of the church service



Have at it.


Now let mii actually start studying

19 comments:

disgodkidd said...

there's nothing to it. sex was God's idea, so why do we act like it's ours? there are three ways about everything in life, including sex: MY way, SIN's Way or GOD's way. so it shouldn't be "sex in the church"? it should be "which sex"?

my two cents.

Debbie said...

I agree with disgodkidd XXX we as christians should be examples to how things should be done. In business, in families and in relationships..... lets face it SEX is every where you look. it is time our churches start dressing this issue especially to our young folks, to avoide teenage pregnacies.
Question how do christian couples know what to do when they get married? they go to the world... So lets talk about SEx in church.

NoLimit said...

Wow!!! this is sooo cool!
Love this post!

Remi, United Kingdom said...

I like the post... sex is created by God and its meant to happen only in the union of marriage... and we know everything God creates is good and that includes sex.

the world is all up on itself when the church teaches about sex because it is not used how and where God intended for it to be - in marriage, therefore its meanings and everything atttached to it, in the world's mind is tainted...

thanks for sharing.. x

Gee said...

ooooo...I cant seee the writings well:((
So I cant even read it..please edit the background so i can read it, looks like something im interested in reading about...
its truly "d unspoken"
But for me lately in my church we have gradually started speaking about it cuz its so important that we christians understand what God wants from us and how he wants it....like she said, today sex is everywhere, even in a common nivea body cream advert so the deeper children of God understand it the easier it is for us to discern on it and all issues concernin it.
Thnx

Kafo said...

@ disgodkidd: lol at Sex was God's idea, i like that i might just use it in the future

@ Debbie: i think there are books, hopefully that tell married christian couples what to do

@ NoLimit: it's real, hopefully my dad doesn't read my blog


@ Remi & Gee: thanks

Bibi said...

Please. you're right. they just have their panties in a bunch. sex is everywhere these days and i think that the pastor is doing a good job educating the youth in his chuch. FIRST TIMER

simeone said...

screaming that the pastor is talkin bout sex in the church is just downright hypocritical...theres always a "holy alternative" to every "issue" and challenge in life, so why should "the people" not be properly educated.

Daydah said...

Its about time we brought sex education to the church! I say pastors should preach about sex (@disgodkidd), God's version, which should always be within marriage. Pastors can also address the signs that come along with Sin's version so we can beware lest we fall into temptation's pit.
Nice truth bit, kafo....miss u...

TY Tha Mos Magnificent said...

its a shame the church is not in tune with reality...

Kafo said...

@ TY Tha Mos Magnificient: i won't go to say that are not in tune with reality i would say that they don't know how to address the issues cuz they are conflicted

@ Daydah: i miss u more

@ simeone: abi oooo

@ Bibi: lol at the panties in a bunch reference oops i guess i shouldn't have said that but yeah i agree with u as long as he is being real and teaching the truth, y should we complain

yankeenaijababe said...

Actually the bible cannot write SEX but it still refers to the main thing. You are humane and its ok to think about sex. Sex is created by God and the church needs to let everyone know the reality and consequences of doing it wrong to help prevent AIDS.

KM said...

I think it's a shame we still have to ask the question. But it's also a symptom of our having drawn a lot of lines in the sand of our lives. Give us enough millennia and we'll have put God Himself in a box for His own protection -- so He doesn't get dirty from living with us... But wait. Haven't we already done that? Isn't that why we're asking this question in the first place?

We have good intentions when we pack God away after church services -- but guess where good intentions lead to. Already a lot of Christians are living in hell because they are conflicted about how they were made and where God was during creation... as if He is not aware of what components went into the process or what human limitations are. As if He can be surprised by who we are, by the range of thoughts we think, by our highs and lows and inconsistencies.

It is not God who put us in that hell. We have put ourselves there, or allowed others to put us there, and we suffer as a result.

Churches need to hit "undo" with a lot of dogma. And churchpeople need to stop receiving it. It's killing them.

StandTall-The Activist said...

You said something profound "sex is everywhere" and it should be addressed everywhere not only in the church. It depends on why we are talking about it or for what... but this is an issue that is everywhere like water.

I favour sex education for young kids. It's better they have the understanding of what sex is all about...

Danny Bagucci said...

Guess one could argue that ignoring it in the christian context only leave peeps to go to the wrong sources for info...which would invariably be tainted with stuff not congruent with a christian worldview...

First time here i think.. Great stuff...

Oyin said...

wow...I have never thought of sex while sittin in church....Do you think that God heard your cries for such a fantasy.....


What if he would have answered...?lol

First time here...how are you?

brownskinaijachic said...

interesting post.. its good you talk about sex with your kids.. the earlier the better

Favoured Girl said...

Great stuff. I wrote a post about sex on my journey down the aisle blog and later found that it had been copied and pasted into an online forum for a church in Amsterdam! I guess Christians like to act "holy" so we feel like sex is unholy. I think sex is a part of God's design for us, there is nothing wrong with it, as long as it is within His parameters i.e. in marriage. The church should talk about it more often.

Kafo said...

@ yankeenaijababe: well said

@ KM: put him in a box for his own protection. wow that is soo scary cuz i think i do that, put him in a box and limit the ability for him to work a miracle that way i will never have to know if he could have done it our not

@ Standtall: my cousins constantly scare mii by how much they know

@ Danny B: thanks for stopping by come back ooooo


@ Oyin: thankfully there wasn't a cry for fantasy it was just a lurid deep thought on some stuff i must have read and decided to reenact in my mind. the good thing i guess was that i was in church so calling on him to deliver mii from myself worked

@ Brownskinaijachic: i know

@ Favoured Girl: that's good, hmmm christians like to act holy and we feel like sex is unholy this reminds mii of a post on TTEC